If you are a virgin at the age of 40 and after, you are not inadequate. You are a human deserving intimacy, connection and pleasure. It's time to act and do something about it.
December 1, 2025
Virginity after 40 in men is rarely discussed openly and it often carries shame, secrecy or confusion. Many men worry that being a virgin later in life means something is 'wrong' with them or that they will be judged negatively by partners.
In reality virginity at any age is simply a neutral part of someone's life story. Many men experience fulfilling, connected sexual relationship later in adulthood, often with greater depth and emotional awareness.
Psychosexual therapy supports men in navigating fears, expectations and practical readiness for first-time intimacy.
Some men avoid intimacy due to anxiety or fear of 'not knowing what to do'.
Difficulty initiating or meeting partners can limit opportunities.
Some men wait for marriage or deep commitment.
Bullying, humiliation or sexual trauma can deeply impact confidence.
Erectile issues, anxiety or neurodivergence can influence sexual initiation.
Many men value emotional closeness before sex.
These concerns are extremely common and fully manageable with support.
Nerves often decrease once emotional connection deepens.
Anxiety affects erections, not lack of masculinity.
Presence, communication and tenderness matter most.
Your timeline is your own.
Build intimacy before penetration: kissing, touching and sensual connection create safety.
Psychosexual therapy can help to reduce shame, build confidence, support erectile anxiety, help understanding arousal and pleasure, learn how to communicate around intimacy, explore sexual identity and develop emotional readiness.
Virginity after 40 does not define you. With support, patience and emotional safety, first-time sexual experiences later in life can be deeply meaningful.
Contact www.londonpsychosexualtherapy.co.uk to book Free No Obligation 15 minute Consultation.to book Free No Obligation 15 minute Consultation.
