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Low Libido When Trying to Conceive: How Men Can Cope

Low libido when trying for a baby is more common than many men realise. It’s often temporary and linked to stress rather than permanent health problems. By reducing pressure, focusing on connection, and seeking support if needed, most men can restore both their sexual desire and relationship satisfaction during this important life stage.

August 16, 2025

Why It Happens:

  • Performance Pressure: The focus shifts from pleasure to reproduction, making men feel as if they must “perform on demand.”
  • High Expectations: Both partners may place intense expectations on sexual activity, which adds stress rather than intimacy.
  • Loss of Spontaneity: Scheduled sex often strips away natural desire, leaving men feeling disconnected.
  • Underlying  Stress: Fertility struggles can amplify anxiety, depression, or feelings of inadequacy all of which affect libido.

Practical Tips for Restoring Desire:

  1. Reframe Intimacy Remember that intimacy isn’t just about conception. Focus on touch, closeness, and affection outside of the fertile window to keep     connection alive.
  2. Reduce Performance Anxiety Avoid pressure to “perform” on cue. Mindfulness techniques, relaxation exercises, or even guided sex therapy can help.
  3. Communicate Openly Share feelings with your partner. Honest conversations reduce tension and prevent misunderstandings about lack of desire.
  4. Maintain  Lifestyle Balance Sleep, exercise, and stress management are crucial for maintaining testosterone levels and overall well-being.
  5. Seek  Professional Help if Needed  If stress or low libido persists, a psychosexual therapist can help men work through fertility-related intimacy challenges.

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